We have read and written about leadership recently in the context of elders and deacons. Today in Philemon we see an excellent model of leadership in Paul’s relationship with Philemon. The word is influence. Paul made it very clear that he was not ordering Philemon to accept Onesimus back kindly even though he had a right to do so. He used his influence with Philemon to persuade him into a course of action that would benefit all. By doing more than merely following orders, Philemon would be given a chance to mature as a Christian and develop a different kind of relationship with his servant. And the servant Onesimus would get a first hand glimpse of the kind of mercy that God gives through the actions of his master.
I love the quote from Josh McDowell “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.” The key ingredient of a leader is the relationship with the followers such that they desire to follow not out of compulsion or even duty, but out of trust and love.
What a stark contrast with the mushy spined leadership of Zedekiah in Jeremiah 37-39. He bends to the whims of whoever is in front of him waving the biggest threat. He is scared of everyone (God, Jeremiah, Babylon, even his own officials). And in the end, he loses everything he has.
A struggle for me is maintaining that relationship with those I lead whether it is at work or at home with my children so that I may have the right kind of influence and not lead people down a destructive path like Zedekiah.
